My best friend is leaving me behind. Not intentionally. She graduated in May and her lease is up towards the end of this month. Its just now beginning to hit me full force. I'm trying to spend as much time with her as I can but that is a bit difficult. She's already kind of moved back home. Though her apartment here in Wilmington is still in tact, she's already acquired a job in her home, works there during the week and comes here on weekends.
We've only been friends (well close friends) for a little over three years but I feel like we've each other for a lifetime. We have had a lot of crazy things occur the past few years (breakups and makeups with boyfriends, new loves, family drama, illnesses, you name it) and we've held the others and throughout it all. She is also the person that seems to know me best (better than my immediate family even) and accepts me exactly how I am, no questions asked.
She won't be too far away (approximately and hour and a half) and I know our friendship won't come to an automatic halt. However, knowing that I won't be able to simply drop by on a whim, call her to go eat some place I've been dying to try out, check out a movie that no one else has an interest in-- and even though she may have already seen it or like the others has no desire too, she will accompany me anyway. She is the epitome of what a real, honest and loyal friend is ( I hope I have been the same to her in return). There's a saying that if you have enough friends to count on one hand, you've lived a good life (something like that). Well, I feel even if you have fewer than that, maybe even just one-- you have been truly blessed; just as I have been.
Jazmyn,
ReplyDeleteI am sort of going through a similar situation. My lease runs up in July and I am moving to Charlotte. I have been really sad lately thinking about leaving my best friend from Wilmington behind. I know that we will stay in touch but I will miss our lunch dates, shopping sprees; pretty much everything. I am excited to venture on my new path in life but am skeptical of making new "best" friends. I know my friend will always be there for me, no matter what (just like yours!) It's hard to imagine them not physically there but at least we know they're only a phone call away!
Jazmyn--sorry that your best friend is moving away...I know that is hard because that happened to me too(except I was the one who moved away rather than her). It's good that she'll still be close by. I know that your friendship will still be there even though you are worried that it won't be in the same way. With a friendship that strong, I'm sure that a simple change in location will do nothing but maybe even make it stronger. That is the case a lot of times. The whole thing you said about counting your friends on one hand sounds like pretty good advice considering how hard it is to find true ones these days...just make sure you don't invest all of your time and heart into one single friendship because though that may be enough at times it will be much worse if something goes wrong and you don't have anyone to fall on or that person there for you. Many people have learned this from personal experience. People will fail us, it's just human nature. Anyways, goodluck with things!
ReplyDeleteNo doubt that having at least one or two close friends to rely on is very important. I find that a lot of times I find myself with just myself and of course the guidance of the Lord, but I have found that if I can make it alone, I can make it whenever. Although, friends are absolutely necessary and a great way of alleviating any kind of burden you carry. I'm sorry that your friend is moving, but at least you can visit and use video chat to see and hear her. Technology is pretty crucial when it comes to long distance relationships. Hopefully another person will fill some of the rift formed by this separation.
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